Buddha
was in an assembly, a gentleman came, he was furious. He thought Buddha was
doing something wrong. He was pulling all the people away, and everybody was
meditating now. The people were very calm and quiet, and he was a restless
businessman. He found his children going to sit with Buddha and meditating for
two hours every day. And he thought that if his children were engaged in
business, they could make more money and be better off. What will they get,
going and spending two hours with somebody, sitting with their eyes closed? So
the father of that family was very upset, and he said, “I am going to teach
this man a lesson!” So he came and looked at Buddha with furiousness.
He
walked straight to Buddha, because he was a very well-known businessman of that
locality. As soon as he came near Buddha, all his other thoughts disappeared,
but his anger was still there. He was shaking, so he could not speak. No words
would come out of his mouth, but he spat on Buddha’s face. Buddha simply
smiled. All the other disciples around, were gripped with anger. They were all
so angry, but they couldn’t react because Buddha was there. So everybody was
holding their lips and fists tight. How dare he do this? But they couldn’t say
anything. And this man could not stay longer. He spat and a few moments later,
he thought, “If I stay longer, I will burst out.” So he ran and went away.
When
Buddha did not react or say anything, and just smiled, this man could not sleep
the whole night. It was the first time in his life he met somebody who would
just smile when he spat in his face. That man could not sleep. His whole body
underwent such a transformation. He was shivering, shaking – I don’t know – he
had an earthquake. The whole world was turned upside down. The next day he came
and fell at Buddha’s feet and said, “Please pardon me, I don’t know what I did.”
Buddha
said, “I cannot excuse you.” Now the disciples were shocked! Buddha was so
compassionate, he always excused everybody. Now he said he cannot excuse him? Not possible! Buddha had to explain, because everybody was in a state of shock! He said, “Well, why? You didn’t do anything so how can I excuse you? What did
you do? What wrong you have done?” He said, “Yesterday, I spat in your face. I
am the same person.” Buddha said, “That person is not there now. If I ever meet
that person on whom you spat, I will tell him to excuse you. So to me right
now, to this person who is here, you are wonderful. You have never done
anything wrong.”
That is
compassion. Compassion is not saying, “Make somebody a culprit!” and then
saying, “Okay, I forgive you.” That’s no compassion. Your forgiveness should be
such that the person who is being forgiven does not even know that you are
forgiving them. They shouldn’t even feel guilty for a mistake. That is the
right type of forgiveness. If you make someone feel guilty about their mistake,
then you have not forgiven them. That guilt itself is a punishment. It’s good
enough.
Source : thebuddhistinformation.com